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Shoka Magazine: Kindness Pays Off

Kindness Pays Off

I could live off compliments like this

Marty Callahan 

8th Degree Black Belt 

“Warriors are not what you think of as warriors. The warrior is not someone who fights, for no one has  the right to take another life. The warrior, for us, is the one who sacrifices himself for the good of others.  His task is to take care of the elderly, the defenseless, those who cannot provide for themselves, and  above all, the children, the future of humanity.” 

-Sitting Bull, Hunkpapa Lakota Indian Chief 

I help people all the time in many different ways. I’ve done this my whole life. It’s who I am. I used to get  bullied because of it. The bullies I had to deal with thought helping people was a sign of weakness. I  suppose they thought that a leader had other people doing their beck and call. I didn’t believe this. I  believed that a good leader served others and that this was their true strength.  

This is part of what attracted me to karate in the first place. It empowered me. It gave me the power I  needed to put bullies aside, so I could go on being who I was. This is often the case with bullies, they  want to punish you for helping others, for doing the right thing, for picking other people up when they are  down.  

So, last summer I helped a grand-aunt find her grand-nephew. The child had trained with us and his mom pulled him out of our school, and surreptitiously took him and his brother to Arizona. She was  hiding the children from the grand-aunt and uncle who had raised the boys for a while after their father,  her husband, had died. It was a classic child custody battle. When I help people, I expect nothing in  return. If I get a thank you or a compliment it feels all the better and I want nothing more than to do it  again. I encourage everyone to do the same – help others and give sincere compliments like this. It will  make the world a better place in some small way.  

Hi Carol, 

When you mentioned last evening that Connie’s husband is Marty and he’s a Shotokan Sensei, I  wondered if his studio is on Marlow Rd? If so, I met him this past summer and found him to be one of  the kindest people. He restored my faith in humanity by helping me to find my grand-nephews after  their mother moved away with them without telling anyone in our family where she (or the children)  were. My 8-year-old grand-nephew was in Marty’s Karate classes prior to being taken (as we found  out) to Arizona by their mother. If this is the same Marty, please let him know he made a huge  difference! Now that we have found the children, we have hired a lawyer and are pursuing our legal  rights for Grandparent / Grand-Aunt visitation. They are the children of my deceased nephew, who  lived with us after his divorce from their mother, and we miss them tremendously. 

Thank you. Deborah WB  

Hi Deborah, 

Yes, that’s the right Marty, and he is, indeed, the kindest of men. I’ll forward this onto him with your  permission. ~ C

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